Having one of my best friends from high school be in a different sorority was most definitely hard to get used to and a struggle at times, but it has not changed the fact that she is my best friend. I am an Alpha Phi and Abie Stark is a member of Phi Sigma Sigma, and she is my best friend. I honestly don't think I would have survived my freshman year of college without her. Even though we are in different sororities, our friendship grew. I know that no matter what Abie and I will always be there for each other.
It is always great to be able to talk to her about everything under the sun, and for her to be there to listen too. We make time to do things just her and I, and are able to love our separate sororities as much as we love each other. It is definitely hard at times since we're not in the same sorority, being in different groups with different rules and secrets, we're not able to tell each other everything. But this has never hindered our relationship.
I think that being in different sororities honestly made our bond stronger. We are able to give each other advice and do things outside of Greek Life with each other, which is what makes our friendship that much stronger.
So my advice to you is to never do everything your friends do, and never back down from a challenge because your friend won't be able to be there with you. This is life and it almost never works out as planned, so just go with it and have fun!
Whenever you talk to a Greek woman, you will often hear a long list of how you should approach sorority life and recruitment. Many get overwhelmed with the simple idea of all the advice being thrown at them. I, like many other Greek woman, could write a novel about the things I wish I'd known before going through recruitment. Instead of reciting that, I would like to give you three main points and goals to keep in mind when making your decision.
Number one: Keep an open mind. You will hear this over and over again from your Gamma Chi--listen to them. Some will come in with a particular sorority in mind, but I ask you to give all your options a deep look. I, myself, came in expecting to go one way but completely changed once I met all the amazing women that Greek Life offers. You will hear stories of triumphs and teachable moments throughout this experience from the many women you will meet. Make sure to view everything being said to you with a clear and open mind.
Number two: Enjoy the little things. I know it seems cliche, but recruitment passes so quickly you will forget the little moments that will lead you to your forever home. Take in what these Greek women are sharing with you; you never know, they could become your new family in a matter of days.
Number three: Listen to your heart and gut. I see too many women joining a chapter just because that's where their friends went or they know people within the sorority. The people who go with the crowd often regret their decisions. Remember that you are making a decision for life, not just four years. Whomever you choose to join will become your family and support system, they will love you in the good times and bad. They are the ones who will be there through tough situations. This is not a choice to make lightly. I hope you make your decision based on your own mind.
Choosing your Greek home is not a decision to take lightly. You will be joining the ranks of some fantastic Greek women including Harper Lee, Katie Couric, Margaret Chase Smith, and even Betty White. I have great hope for each and every one of you and am so excited to see you find your place amongst the powerful Greek women of Indiana University Southeast.
Panhellenic Council members, recruitment counselors, and other sorority women in our Greek community will be blogging throughout the summer months to help potential members prepare for recruitment.